Forgiveness. It’s the response that is elicited following an, “I’m sorry.” It’s letting go. It’s getting back to the core of who you are.
For-giveness. If you are unable to let go of the past, then how can you be for-giving… after all, it is impossible to give something to someone else outside of the present moment.
For some people, it is hard to forgive others. For others, it may be hard to forgive one’s self and I happen to be one of these people.
Did you ever see the movie Pinocchio? His nose grew longer and longer with each lie that he spoke… until one day Jiminy Cricket came along and encouraged him to tell the truth. Pinocchio was soon realizing the power of holding true to his conscience, listening to his heart, and being responsible for his actions.
Everyone has a Jiminy Cricket; a conscience that guides. And everyone can feel when something is in accordance with their values or not… “follow your heart” might be better said, “feel your heart.” One of my favorite Twitter friends to follow, Deepak Chopra, says to ask your heart by becoming aware of it. If your body responds with a positive feeling, chances are that you are on the right track. If not, then maybe it is time to change something.
The thing is, we are human, and we make mistakes; enter “forgiveness.” If you are anything like me, you have felt guilt before. If we are anything alike, there have been moments in your life that you wish a time machine existed so that you could go back and “fix” something you did. And if we’re being honest with ourselves, we probably both realize that these ways of thinking are futile. So how do we move closer to forgiving ourselves?
Thankfulness. It opens up the door for giving. Thankfulness accomplishes this by putting you back into the moment. After all, whenever negative feelings are harbored, it means that you are rejecting a truth. What truth? Whatever it is that happened that isn’t in alignment with you.
I encourage you to give it a try. Try being thankful when you are feeling unforgiving of yourself, or your situation. I have personally found it impossible to feel thankful and also sad or regretful.
Once you’ve accomplished this. Forgive yourself. Move on. We all make mistakes.
I’ll leave you with a quote from Paolo Coehlo’s, The Alchemist: Life is about falling down seven times, and picking yourself back up eight times.